Dear Daughters: Harlie, Sarah, Britny, Millie, Tatum, Amy
You are beautiful, intelligent, kind, and worthy. Don't let anyone tell you different. If you will allow me, I'd love to share some wisdom with you.
Know your worth and don't look for acceptance or validation from someone who is incapable of giving it. Not everyone wants to see you succeed. But your heavenly Father does. You were fearfully and wonderfully made. You were created on purpose with purpose. And I think you're pretty wonderful.
A man's greatest need in a relationship is respect. A woman's greatest need in a relationship is security, everything from finances to her friendship with her man. When there are conflicts, take a step back, and see what needs are not being met. If you simplify the problem, then it's easier to find the solution. Talk to your man, feed him information. The more he knows the better he can love you. The Bible tells us: husbands love your wives, wives respect your husbands. That's how men receive love, respect. We receive love by feeling secure. My husband hears me, he values me, he provides for me, therefore he loves me. You may have to tell him when your need isn't being met. He is focused on providing thru his job, give him grace for not knowing, and tell him gently.
Each of us has a love language as well. Words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, and gifts. Figure out what is your love language, then let him know. Figure out his love language and give it to him. Hint...he may say physical touch. Honestly sharing your body with him provides him with comfort, stress relief, tenderness and much more. Unless your praying and fasting, don't withhold physical love.
Do not go to bed angry. Do your best to resolve the issue, or at least come to a place of peace before you go to sleep. Letting a problem stew in your mind and in your sleep is unhealthy for you and your marriage.
A piece of paper from the government doesn't necessarily mean you have a marriage. Marriage is actually a heart and soul connection. A commitment to each other and your family. Many people have a piece of paper and no heart connection, and I know people who are clearly committed to each other without the paper. That paper is a government approval and a tax on your relationship, it does give you guaranteed benefits such as next of kin, tax break, and a few others, but it's not mandatory for a Godly marriage. Your commitment is mandatory. I do recommend you make a public showing of your commitment like a ceremony of some sorts so your extended family can rejoice with you. This also helps to hold us accountable to the commitment.
Do not take disrespect from your children. You are raising adults, not forever children. You are teaching them how to treat others and how they should expect to be treated. As parents, we need to treat each other with respect, and live it out in front of our kids. Don't expect respect if you can't give it. They will mimic all your worst behaviors so be careful what little eyes and ears witness.
Be the doorkeeper against spiritual attacks on your family. Use your intuition to sense dark spirits in people, and limit those people from your home and access to your children. Avoid the occult in all forms, séance, tarot card and palm readings, and witchcraft of all kinds. Seems innocent because you're not aware of how dark and dangerous it is. You can open doors to the Spirit realm and invite a demonic presence into your home, your body, or even your kids. Please be careful with the darkness, it's not your friend.
I love you and desire the best for you. The best for you is a relationship with your heavenly Father and His Son, your Savior Yahusha/Jesus. It's a journey and I am here to help in any way I can.
Love Mom, aka Granny
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