Divorce Shame
I have been legally married according to the laws of my state and federal government three times. Only one of these unions is a covenant marriage grounded in Yahuah and His instructions for life. Until recently I have carried such guilt and shame for my past failed marriages. I have had really skewed understanding of the Scriptures about marriage, divorce, and remarriage. And I clearly received poor counsel from well meaning church leaders. I found myself in the Pastor's office frequently during my second marriage seeking help. The fact that there was abuse in my marriage was not a secret. My ex attended church with me often enough that people could see we had problems. Each time I asked for counsel, I was proposed the same question: are you being stiff-necked? The verses about being submissive and having an unbelieving spouse were quoted, and I was dismissed. Not sure why I kept going back, maybe because I knew the answers were in my Bib...